Being charming and being offensive at the same time is tricky. It's also fascinating, an entire Hollywood genre.
Anti-slavery advocate John Brown may be my hero... he created a space for Abraham Lincoln and Frederick Douglas to work inside. But if you don't have a popularity guru, and aren't part of a Lincoln-F.Douglas team, it does help to build up chits, credits, and bitcoins of goodwill. Count your cultural ammo before you embark on something really worth being contrary over. It's not a secret, but it has to be a habit, like a banker saving interest, or a cowboy counting his bullets.
Sometimes we discover an injustice in our group, and we have to buy or earn attention to it, until we recruit our Great Communicator like Abe Lincoln, Mark Twain, or Frederic Douglas.
Until then, how do we promote justice while remaining acceptably affable? How do we communicate the need for change to people who aren't really in the business and whose attention we are borrowing? It's kind of like selling Civil Rights Movements at a Little Rock Garden Club meeting, or Women's Suffrage to a Chicago Country Club, in 1925.
Take note of what you are spending with this Charm Econ earnings report by Sebastian Drake.
13. Never impose weakness on others –
Sometimes we discover an injustice in our group, and we have to buy or earn attention to it, until we recruit our Great Communicator like Abe Lincoln, Mark Twain, or Frederic Douglas.
Until then, how do we promote justice while remaining acceptably affable? How do we communicate the need for change to people who aren't really in the business and whose attention we are borrowing? It's kind of like selling Civil Rights Movements at a Little Rock Garden Club meeting, or Women's Suffrage to a Chicago Country Club, in 1925.
Take note of what you are spending with this Charm Econ earnings report by Sebastian Drake.
13 Characteristics of Likeable People by Sebastian Drake
1. Smiling -
2. Eye contact –
3. Touch –
4. Not talking about yourself –
5. Not talking too much -
6. Empathy –
7. Not trying to impress –
8. Showing praise and appreciation –
9. Never criticizing, ever, for any reason –
10. Not trying to fix other peoples’ problems –
10. Not trying to fix other peoples’ problems –
11. Eliminate negativity -
12. Never complain –
13. Never impose weakness on others –
Maybe we can assign earnings per day to each habit and treat it like a checklist. Follow these steps, and be less unpopular. But when is Charm over-rated?
